Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Love Life. Be Happy.

Recently I read an article about the 10 things that the people who love their lives are doing differently and it was a bit eye opening. I can honestly say right now that I love my life. Sure, there are lots of areas for improvement & things that I hope to change in the next year or so, but for the most part, I'm happy and I do love my life. 

Reading the list made me take a more in depth look at things and suddenly I was craving change. 

They don’t bother trying to make others like them — mainly because they don’t care if they’re liked.

This was a big one for me. Despite what some might think, I'm a people pleaser- big time. Over the past few years I've worked hard to change that because I know that I need to be happy and I need to come first in my own life, but it takes a lot of work. And, I've still got a ways to go too. 
When Matt & I made the decision to move (years before we actually moved), a lot of people thought we were crazy & we were often asked how we could move so far from all of our family. This is exactly why. We knew that we'd never be happy in California, we knew the type of town we wanted to live in, the sort of neighborhood where we wanted to raise our children and yes, that meant moving far from family. We miss our family, but we're also happier than we've both been in years and our marriage is better because of that. And, I'd like to think that we're both able to be better parents because of that too!

They do things because they want to do them, not because they believe they have to do them.

When I first read this one, I thought "wow, that's a big deal!". It might not seem like it, but really think about- you're an adult, how often in our lives do we do things because we "should" or to please others? Matt & I were both so guilty of this for years. Moving away changed that for us, because everything that we do is up to us. It's nice to have that control over our lives, not that we were controlled by anyone before but when you're living around family and there is tension (for any reason), you tend to do things to make others happy.

They love their friends but don’t rely on them.

There is something about being in a new city & only really knowing 1 other family, that throws you into this. In California we could rely on family, but here we're on our own. Sure, we live in a neighborhood that is extremely close knit and we've got friends who'd help in a heartbeat and we're there for them in that same way. It feels good to know they're there, but to be on our own and rely on each other rather than anyone else. I truly believe that it's brought Matt and I closer and all 4 of us closer even, because we've now spent holidays as only a family of four, we've spent more family time with together than we used to even.

When you ask them what they do, they don’t give you a job title.

This is interesting to me, because when someone asks us we tell them what we "do". Matt's an accountant, I'm a stay at home mom and if the conversation goes further I might mention the virtual assisting/blogging that I do. Or, I might not. I can't imagine answering differently, but I think it'd be an interesting conversation to have. 

When you ask them where they live, they say, “At the moment…”

This won't happen for us. There's no way, not "at the moment" anyway. When we're retired and the kids are grown? Maybe. But right now, no. Our move was to get us to a good place, a place where our family would be happy- and we've achieved that. Moving around with the kids, while they're going through school & growing isn't something that would make us happy, so we're staying put. Right here in our happy place.

They have their own philosophies, their own religion they created and live by.

Matt & I to a "t", no doubt about that. We've tried going to church (a church that we loved), but in the end it wasn't for us. The two of us know our morals & values and we're passing them onto our kids. Our children are free to dabble in any religion they choose and when the time comes that they're curious, Matt and I will support whatever choices they make.

They embrace their impermanence.

When I think about dying, my anxiety kicks in. Embracing my impermanence is something that I'm not sure how to do at this point in my life. It almost makes me sick to even think about, because of my children. They need me and I hope to be around for years and years and years. 

They see the world as their playhouse and their mind as the conductor.

This one is really interesting and the article included this:

"They don’t believe there is a single way that the world is — a single reality that exists. Instead, they believe themselves to be the originators of their reality.
They believe they have full control over how they interpret what they perceive. They see the world the way they choose to see it because they understand the power such a skill has. We all live in a reality of our own construction. Some of us just construct our realities better than others." via
I get what Hudson is saying, but I'm not sure that I can say I'm "there". I'd like to think that one day I will be though.
They live in the moment, but dream in the future.
Very, very much so! Matt & I live very much in the moment, within our means, and try to make the best of every situation and what we have. We dream about the future a lot as well, we know what we want and have plans to achieve it. Those dreams are what got us from California to Wisconsin, so I'm confident that Matt and I can once again (over and over hopefully) turn those dreams for our future into a reality for our family. 

And we're teaching the children to dream big about their futures. We want nothing more than for them to know that they can achieve anything that they put their minds to and for them to enjoy every moment of life that they're given.

They don’t bother changing others, but instead learn how to deal with them appropriately.

This last point hits home, hard! After seven years of marriage to Matt we had issues and I was frustrated. That frustration came from not being able to change things about him that I wanted changed. It took marriage counseling (for that and many other reasons) for me to realize that I couldn't change him, even if I told him a million times a day that him changing would make him a better husband & dad. In counseling he learned how to redirect, and I learned how to handle and better understand the things we were dealing with. We both had to give a little in order to change something within our marriage. 

Each of us has changed a lot over the 11 years we've been married, and we've changed and grown together, making our relationship stronger than ever. 

Each of these really challenges me to think about how we're living our life, how happy we are or aren't. They make me wonder if there are things we're doing that we can change or things that maybe we aren't doing, but should be doing. I feel like we're happy though and I'd like to think that we can continue to be this happy, maybe happier even for many, many years to come. 

Are you happy? What do you think of the points that came from the article?

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Dream. Create. Inspire. 1

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Welcome to the first week of our new Dream Create Inspire Party! I am so excited to kick off this new link party with Holly, Alyson, and Tabitha. Each week you will come and share your favorite creative blog posts. You are more then welcome to link up to four posts each week. We do ask that you visit and comment on some of the other links. We will be featuring some of our favorites next week. I am looking forward to checking out your posts! Meet Your Party Hosts. hosts copy
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Dream Create Inspire Party Guidelines

  • Link up any creative post from your blog. It can be diy, crafts, printables, tutorials, recipes, etc.
  • Leave a link to the specific post, and not just your blog.
  • You may link up to four posts each week.
  • Add the button to your blog, or a text link directing back to the party.
  • Make sure to visit and comment on some of the other links.

Friday, October 17, 2014

Ten Sixteen Fourteen

How was your week? What did you do?
It's been a whirlwind of a week around here and I'm looking forward to a busy weekend. 

I took this guy out to lunch because he had a day off. He was adorable and even told me at one point, "mom what are we doing next? we're still dating, right?". I love that boy! 
Isn't this fall print so cute? I love the colors and the little doodled leaves. The best part is that it's a $5 printable from This Girl Doodles
Matt & I even got out for dinner at one of our favorite places down the street from our house! Yummy drinks, the best chips, salsa and tacos. But the best part? Uninterrupted conversation with my husband. I'm always so thankful for nights like that!
Happy mail is one of my favorite things & the POPSUGAR #musthavebox is amazing! Every little thing in it. That soap, those pumpkin maltballs & the eye pencil- fabulous.
He's got style. There's no doubt about it and I love that about him. Also, for the first time he insisted that I not get his head in the picture. He specifically asked that I not post his face on Instagram that morning. The girl mom (for 5 years before even having a boy) in me loves that he pays attention to what he wears and is so particular. My bank account? Not so much.
We'll be watching volleyball all weekend long, as Brookelyn has games both days. But, we're hoping to make time for the pumpkin patch too. And maybe even another date night? We'll see! 

What are your weekend plans? Are you going anywhere? Doing anything fun?

Linking up with Jeannett from Life Rearranged.

POPSUGAR provided me with a complimentary POPSUGAR Must Have box. The opinions I have shared about the box are my own andPOPSUGAR did not tell me what to say or how to say it.

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Living Room Inspiration: Custom Upholstered Furniture

I'm excited to share this sponsored post today with you about Wayfair's new line of custom upholstered furniture. I was compensate for this post, but all opinions & ideas are my own. 

Knowing that we'll be buying a home in the spring has got my wheels turning! One of my favorite things to do is decorate a room & I can't wait to furnish and decorate our new living room. There are so many beautiful pieces of furniture and decor at Wayfair that I'm absolutely pining over! There are so many pieces in our home now that will always be with us, at least for a few years to come. But, there are lots of new things that I can't wait to bring into a cozy living room. I'll surely have a mix of modern and industrial, yet still comfortable. 
Wayfair Custom Upholstered Furniture 
The new Custom Upholstered furniture from Wayfair is fabulous & I adore the Josephine sofa and arm chair. While I'd love to go with the white (because it's beautiful), I'll have to be practical and choose something like this shade of grey, or Hilo Seagull, as Wayfair calls it. The tufting and nail heads are what I love most. The couch looks sleek and gorgeous, yet still comfy enough to curl up with a throw & a cup of tea. 

The Josephine line isn't the only line of custom upholstered furniture though, there are over 10 new styles, all in many different colors! Choose from sofas, ottomans, love seats, chairs and more. Each piece is a classic piece with it's own twist to appeal to the masses. You're able to choose your style, colors & even fabrics based on your preference.

While searching the Wayfair site, I knew that I'd prefer something in a medium shade of grey, tufted, comfortable looking, not too large & a little bit modern looking. Not too modern though, because I want a living room to be a relaxing room and not feel uptight or too formal. I choose the Josephine, but it wasn't an easy choice. They're all so great looking and come in so many fabulous colors & fabrics. 
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Wayfair Custom Upholstered Furniture
Spring can't come soon enough! I'm so anxious to hop on the Wayfair site and fill our new home with beautiful furniture, decor and of course, lots of love!

Which style, color & fabric would you choose?