have you ever been at your wits end with your child (or children) and just didn't know what more to do to? of course you have, right? we've been there with cohen, often. at his school conference last month his teacher was stunned when i told her about his behavior at home. she just couldn't believe that sweet, quite cohen wasn't the same boy we saw at home every day. she gave me some great ideas to try and she told me all about the behavior chart in the classroom. cohen had mentioned the behavior chart numerous times because most days he'd "clip off", which meant he was really good at school! his teacher offered to print one out for us, but since i'm kinda crafty (and I knew that it's a star wars themed chart) i opted to make my own! and so far, it's working!!
this is our behavior chart and it was simple to make. i used a piece of wood that we had leftover from a craft party, painted it lightly (dabbing the paintbrush in water and paint), added some burlap, glitter, "good job" and "calm down". the clothes pin was something i had (tons of) in my craft room, i slapped some paint on it, drilled holes in the bored, pulled jute through so that we can hang it... and viola! behavior chart. i'll explain below how it works....
i brushed some gold glitter on the top of the board, because the top is where they want to be. and, i tried to paint in simple fonts that would look nice but that cohen could also easily read.
the thing about this type of behavior chart is that you want them to move the clip often. if he's being nice, does something without being told, picks up right away when he's done with something, etc then he gets to clip up. he can clip up himself if i tell him, sometimes i just do it. but, it's hanging where he can reach it and do it himself.as he misbehaves - doesn't listen, talks back, ignores, etc, he has to move his clip down on the chart. we typically move it about a half inch. if cohen's clip hits the red he gets a toy taken away (for 2 days). if he continues to misbehave to the point that he's clipped off the bottom of the chart he loses a privilege the next day. (Play date, something fun we have planned, iPad time, etc- big things that he doesn't want to lose.) as soon as he does something good/nice though he gets clipped back on and moves on up. the privilege doesn't come back, neither does the toy... it's a pretty simple concept and he understands it really well. usually when he's close to red things turn around.
we've been using the chart for about a week now and things are going really well. cohen's behavior has improved and it is great to see him try so hard to behave and move back up the chart. when he goes to bed we move his clip to the blue area, just under the burlap. this helps him to start the day fresh the next morning.
we're just so happy that this seems to be working so well. it's great to see cohen a bit calmer than normal, learning to listen again and just acting like the nice boy we hear he is at school. and we're so grateful to his teacher for sharing the behavior chart idea with us! i'm hoping that the behavior chart will only continue to improve the way he behaves at home.
how do you discipline your kids? what have you found works & what doesn't?